Communication matters

Make time to talk

It doesn’t take a lot of time to connect. Set aside a few minutes every day to discuss:

• How you feel about having a child.

• Fun things like baby names, nursery ideas, and how cute your little one will be.

• What you’re excited for and what you’re worried about.

• Ideas about parenting and how you’ll raise your child together.

Choose words that work

How you and your partner talk makes a difference. It can be hard at times, but you can learn to communicate in ways that make you both feel heard and supported.

• Nothing is black and white. Avoid saying “always” and “never.”

• Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements.

• Say you’re sorry when you need to.

• Be specific about your needs and expectations.

Master 3 healthy listening skills

To be a good communicator, you have to be a good listener. Here are a few techniques to practice:

• Ask questions.

• Repeat what your partner says in your own words, so she knows you heard her.

• Listen between the lines — you don’t have to be a mind reader to read facial expressions and gestures.

Communication matters in all of your relationships — with your partner, your coworkers, and, someday, with your child. It takes work, but it’s worth working on. It’s all part of the journey.